Monday, February 6, 2012

On being the best that you can: part 2


Stop being idle: While it is difficult to not over-think things sometimes, the worst thing you could do is to think so much that you create a problem that wasn’t there in the first place. If you choose that the risk is too great or that you aren’t willing to step outside of your comfort zone, then you are giving in to the mundane.

Stop being jealous: When you let jealousy take over, you are cutting off the potential to be happy for your own achievements. You are enough; you need to understand this.

Stop believing you’re not ready: Nobody ever feels as though they are 100% ready to take on an opportunity at hand, but it doesn’t mean they are going to let it stop them. Most of the great opportunities in life push us out of our comfort zone and help us to grow.

Stop competing against everyone else: It doesn’t matter what everyone else is doing, only what you are doing. Forget about whether or not someone is better than you at a certain thing, you are living your life, not theirs. Success is a battle between you and you alone.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself: It is easy to stop all that you are doing and to just feel sorry for yourself, but it is counter-productive. The longer you sit back moping about what you could have had, the longer it is going to take you to get back up and try again. Give yourself a set amount of time to feel bad then get up and continue; knowing your time to grieve has passed. It is time to try harder.
Stop getting into relationships for the wrong reasons: Sometimes it is better to just be alone; especially when the choice is between being alone or being in bad company. There is no need to rush into a relationship simply because you think you are better off in a pair. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.

Stop holding grudges: You shouldn’t live your life with hatred in your heart. Along with hurting all those who matter and are close to you, it will hurt you as well. It will give you a bad image and the negativity will spread until it has eaten you up. I know this because I have let grudges manifest who I am once or twice in my life. It is a horrible experience. When you forgive someone you are not saying, “What you did to me was okay”, you’re saying, “You have hurt me but I am willing to patch this up with you”. You must remember to forgive yourself as well. Grudges can be held against yourself we well.

Stop letting others bring you down: You mustn’t allow others to drag you down to their level. If they can’t see to raising their standards then this is not an issue you can control. You have tried your best.
Stop rejecting new relationships on the basis of old ones not working: You learn something from everyone you meet. While it is hard letting go of a love, maybe the purpose of that relationship was to teach you what you didn’t want in a relationship. It doesn’t mean you aren’t meant for love, it simply means you deserve something different. Allow the experience to bring out the best in you.
Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others: This is one I struggle with. People are always going to judge, so please don’t feel obliged to explain your situation to them. Just do what you know is right in your heart.


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